Many of us have been attracted to a Master like Osho because we consciously decided on a path out of the box. We probably gave up on a conventional life, and are looking for a way to live and relate that is alive, loving, and creative and not based on rules, duty, or morality.
Can we live in a deep intimate, committed, sexually exclusive relationship that stays alive moment to moment without it becoming dead or boring?
We live it and we teach it.
Unfortunately many people enter into love relationships without really knowing what they need or what it takes to make love work. Often, relationships begin with high expectations and hopes. But as disappointments and frustrations get stronger, and the attraction dips, the relationship descends into boredom, low energy, distance, and even conflict.
We have always dreaded the idea of living a conventional marriage and never wanted it in our lives. We both had dysfunctional relationships before we learned what it takes to make love work and we were motivated to get it right. We have now been together for over twenty years and we can both say that it is still alive, juicy, deeply nourishing, and intimate.
The way we manage this is no big secret. In our experience, there is a formula for love to stay alive and safe and for trust to build. It has to be sexually exclusive, consistent, respectful, deeply caring, and playful. We have made it a point to be willing to feel and share our feelings regularly, resolve conflicts when they come up, and spend lots of time enjoying and playing together. These are qualities that we both learned from doing inner work on ourselves, having a deep longing and understanding for intimacy, and hanging in even when we faced challenges.
We spend half the year on the road leading groups and the other half at home in Sedona. When we are at home, we have a fairly fixed routine that works for us. Not to bore anyone with the details, in general it involves eating simple healthy food, making love regularly, doing yoga and meditating, pilates for Amana and tennis for Krish, taking bike rides or hiking alone or together, doing sessions with people on Skype or with those who come here to work with us, and watching movies at night.
Our relationship works because we have a lot in common. We share our love of meditation and our devotion to Osho, we both value the need to grow and play, to create a meditative space to live in, to have our own interests, and to share a work together that we both deeply love. We have an abiding passion to share and to teach others how to create the kind of inner peace and love with another that we experience because we recognize that this is what most people long for so desperately in their lives.